Romans: Responding with Love (Romans 12)

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ANNOUNCEMENTS — These are announcements specific to the Moscow Campus.

  • Women’s Coffee Connection
    September 10, 9:00–10:30 am at Real Life, Moscow Campus
    Coffee Connection is for the women of Real Life who are looking to connect specifically with other women, have a better understanding of our ministry, and hear about other ministry opportunities. Contact Kerri Gray for more information.
  • Baptism
    September 13, 7:00 pm at Real Life, Moscow Campus
    Sign up in the lobby or contact the church office at 208.882.2484 to meet with a pastor before your baptism.
  • Childcare Volunteers Needed
    There is a huge need for childcare volunteers for our single moms so they can connect with other women and grow in their relationship with God. You must be over 18 and background checked (we will help you do that). Starting in September, these are the timeslots with the greatest need:
    The second Saturday of each month: 9:15–10:30 am.
    Every Saturday (except 2nd Saturday): 5:00–7:00 pm.
    Contact Kerri Gray for more information.

WELCOME — Don’t read through the list; this is something that you model.

  • Help new believers, visitors, and members feel valued and welcomed.
  • Start at the moment someone arrives and don’t end until everyone is gone.
  • Establish a foundation for relationships.

OPENING PRAYER — Don’t read through the list; this is something that you model.

  • Invite God’s Holy Spirit into our presence.
  • Prepare our hearts for what God has for us.
  • Shift our attention from individual fellowship to the group.

PURPOSE/VISION CASTING — Don’t read through the list; say them in your own words.

“The purpose of this group is…”

  • to mature in our relationship with God.
  • to have the people we need around us to disciple and encourage us.
  • to be here for others in the group; to encourage and disciple others.
  • to live life together; we are here for each other in the joyful and difficult moments of our lives.
  • to invite other people into a relational environment, which means our group will branch at some point; when that point comes, if you would like to lead or host a group, please let me know.

GROUND RULES — Cover all the ground rules.

  • Confidentiality: What’s said in the group stays in the group.
  • Listen: Let’s value one another during the discussions by really listening to what is being shared. Try to avoid thinking about how you are going to respond or what you are going to say next.
  • Pause: Allow a pause in conversation after someone shares to give the person sharing a chance to finish and give the group an opportunity to consider what was shared before responding.
  • Silence: It is important to allow silence in the group as it provides an opportunity for someone to share and for members in the group to process the topic or question being considered.
  • No Cross Talk: Be considerate of others as they are sharing. No side conversations.
  • No Fixing: We are not here to fix each other. Jesus does that. Give encouragement, speak truth, and point to Jesus. Don’t try to fix each other.
  • No Rescuing: When people are sharing something deeply personal, there can be a tendency to make them feel better about themselves or the situation by providing immediate condolences. This will often cause them to stop sharing. Resist the temptation to rescue people.
  • Sharing: Be sensitive about the amount of time you share.
  • Use “I” statements: It’s easy to talk about the issues of others, but for our purposes, we want you to put yourself on the table. Try to use “I” statements rather than “they,” “the church,” “us,” “we,” etc.
  • Household Rules: We appreciate those who open their home up to CARE Groups and out of respect to them we need to… (e.g., take shoes off, clean up toys afterward, put chairs back, leave by 8:00 pm, etc.)

OPENING CONNECTION — Use the following icebreaker.

  • If you could be a dog, what breed would you be and why?

STORY PREPARATION — Introduce today’s story.

“Last Sunday we continued in our Romans series. Aaron led the discussion on Romans 12; this week the Apostle Paul presents practical implications of how we should live when we understand the grace of God.”

TELL THE STORY — Story the passage from memory.

  • Note: You can spend the discussion time talking through Romans 12 or use the story of Jesus washing the feet of the Disciples to get into the discussion.
  • John 13:1–15

REBUILD THE STORY — Have someone read the passages.

  • Read the passage together.

SERMON IMPLICATIONS — Review these with the group.

  • Let love be genuine.
  • Abhor what is evil; hold fast to what is good.
  • Love one another with brotherly affection.
  • Outdo one another in showing honor.
  • Do not be slothful in zeal, be fervent in spirit, serve the Lord.
  • Rejoice in hope, be patient in tribulation, be constant in prayer.
  • Contribute to the needs of the saints and seek to show hospitality.
  • Bless those who persecute you; bless and do not curse them.
  • Rejoice with those who rejoice, weep with those who weep.
  • Live in harmony with one another.
  • Do not be haughty, but associate with the lowly.
  • Never be wise in your own sight.
  • Repay no one evil for evil, but give thought to do what is honorable in the sight of all. If possible, so far as it depends on you, live peaceably with all.
  • Beloved, never avenge yourselves, but leave it to the wrath of God, for it is written, “Vengeance is mine, I will repay, says the Lord.” To the contrary, “if your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him something to drink; for by so doing you will heap burning coals on his head.”
  • Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.

DEBRIEF THE PASSAGE — Ask the questions.

  • Which of the implications from Sunday’s sermon is the hardest for you to live out? Why?
  • How do you see this week’s sermon in this story?
  • In this story, what emotions do you imagine Peter wrestled with? How are you able to relate to this story?
  • Why do you think Jesus chose to wash the feet of His Disciples?
  • How can you use this story to disciple others?

CLOSE IN PRAYER — Don’t read through the list; choose a way to close in prayer.

  • Take prayer requests.
  • Pray about the conversation that you just had.
  • Break up in smaller groups to pray as an option.